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Monday, September 22, 2025

Lessons from a hotel chair.

 Wrapping up another trip to Denver for the Colorado Scottish Games....Getting our powdered egg and funky waffles at the Hyatt Place.  We are sitting close to the bar....as people are coming through to get to the breakfast area and someone knocks into a chair that was left slightly into the pathway.

 They look at the chair and keep walking.  The chair is not slightly further in the way.

Another person is walking toward breakfast and...bam...hits their elbow. Looks at the chair....and walks on.

And a third. 

Yes....a third person....same same.....

 

Seems so odd to me.  I suddenly think...seems so american to me.   Like...this thing hurt me because I slammed into it....but fuck anyone behind me, they can slam the hell into it too.  

 

I know, I know, probably not exclusively and american way of seeing things...but this is the water I swim in so that's where I am going with it. God forbid we make the world better or an experience better for the people coming up behind us. 

"If I had to blah blah blah....they can do it too."

 Yawn.

Listen....for an example...I had student loans, I had a huge parent loan, I paid them both off.  Guess what?

I'm all for forgiveness of student loans cause that shit is predatory. 

High property taxes to fund schools...do it.  I'm happy to pay for that shit.  Makes us all better when we have an educated population. 


So, I pushed that chair in before we left the breakfast area.

Simple... 

 

I wanted my kids to have a better world than I had...Sadly...yeah...too many chairs left in the pathway.

Wednesday, September 10, 2025

That’s on me….

 I set this up after all. 

I’m not a huge fan of the thinking that we “train” people how to treat us. It feels a lot like victim blaming in certain kinds of situations. 

But……..

I’m smack dab in the middle of something that really fits the bill…. I really did set this up. 

Last weekend in Pleasanton I noticed something. And /or I’m totally projecting. Either way the thoughts are the same. 

This is a super supportive sport, so much so, that people are always chatting about form, or tips or training issues.  It is great, especially for someone like me, who was not an athlete when I was young.  I came to this stuff late in life.  My friend Lisa used to say we had "adult onset athletic disorder."  I realized something at the game.  I wasn't having these conversations. In fact, I don't think I've been party to these kinds of conversations in quite some time.  

I just really noticed it that weekend.  Like I'd be chatting with another athlete and it's all good stuff, fun things, talking about games that are coming up, or questions about the game in Albuquerque,  and as I would move on; I'd hear snippets of the conversation starting up with the next person.  Generally it was training or form or other kinds of details.

I know how I sound....I don't mean too, but I just struck me in that moment.  Then I saw the posts,  all the videos, all the photos.  

Oh.  

Well...I see it now.  I rarely video, I generally only get photos of throws if other people take them, I basically never post videos of me throwing. I do however, post photos of me being, well, me....a fucking goofball.  

Case in point....the start of the day in Pleasanton, I am helping out judge plant the field record markers...and, well.....you can see for yourself.   


Clearly a serious athlete here....I do think it is funny and was happy Katy captured this video.  But, back to the first point I was making....I  am putting things out there that make me seem completely un~serious, so other folks on the field have no reason to think I am serious. 

During this game, I was testing out my injured hip; I was scared to throw, but I still broke two field records. Last weekend in Estes, I had two season's bests...

I do like talking training, I really do take this seriously, regardless of how I look.  Or my age.  Or the weird joy I always seem to lean into.

So what is my point?  I don't know.

Why is this bugging me a little right now?  I don't know. 

Perhaps some of it is that thing that happens as we age, the invisibility that shows up.   

Will I start posting training or throwing videos? Probably not....so I guess...I just gotta get over myself. 

Take my training as seriously as I care to and lean in to as much joy as I can experience these days and let go of what other people talk about or how they see me....oh....I know.  It has just been a challenge recently.

I'll keep trying. 


And I'll just keep being myself.

Wednesday, August 13, 2025

Some churchy observations.

 We were super lucky this year; after we were in Norway, we were able to spend three days in Edinburgh.

Boy oh boy we did the full on touristy stuff.  Stayed about 5 minutes from the castle. It is much like any other touristy place...Old Town in ABQ, The Dells in Wisconsin.  You get the picture.

The first afternoon there we dip into St. Giles Cathedral.  Lucky for me, it is a cathedral that allows photography...some don't....bugs me that even when it is clearly posted, that some folks with take photos regardless. But that's a thought for another day. 

So, as I do, I am just falling for the very particular style in this cathedral.  It has some of the flourish, but it feels more grounded...heavier than some cathedrals.   Made sense to my senses....seems to match that Scottish sensibility.


Then I start looking at details.  Details in the art work.  

I mean....the specificity of place in these places is very apparent. And, yes, I am well aware of why this is...the colonization of beliefs and motif in order to keep the people in line...to keep them coming to something that "feels" familiar.

Then.....I got sad.  So so fucking sad.

 All this beauty, all this art work, all this attention, and money.  

All of it had been and is still being used to "keep people in line."  It has been used to justify wars and genocide...it still is.

Just so sad.

Made me wonder what Christ would think of bringing people into a space to make them feel a sense of awe and wonder only to use that power to keep people on their knees. 

 

Then a few days after we got home from Scotland...I came up to a church in Santa Fe, not the cathedral, but Santa Maria de la Paz.  Came up for my mother's rosary and funeral mass.  

Been a LONG time since I sat through a rosary.  Like....a full rosary....like almost an hour.  And there too, I was struck by the architecture of this particular church.  The New Mexico of it all.  The beautiful, yet simple, details.  

I did NOT take these photos...I snagged them off the church website.  


 But, very New Mexican...I sat and listened to the rosary.  More striking to me, was who was reciting it.  It was a group of men from the Knights of Columbus, probably six or so of them.  Maybe they knew my mother, maybe not. But I was struck by their dedication. Even more since they probably didn't know her.  I may not believe in what they do, but there they were...a mostly rote reciting of the rosary in service.

In service to their faith.

In service of my mother's soul.

I don't have to believe or agree with them at all in order to appreciate their dedication.  

I was also struck by how much contemporary Christianity has essentially removed the magic and power from Mary, from the divine mother figure. Here were these six old dudes reminding us and themselves that:

"Mary is both a sign of what heaven holds for us and also a Mother to help us get there...Mary is not only Mother but Queen of the universe.....we consecrate ourselves to her and ask her help in doing whatever Jesus tells us."

Powerful divine feminine stuff going on in that prayer. 

Kinda sad it has been stripped from churches....well, it's not like any of these churches treat women in a divine way...but heck, it is still there in theory. 

After the Rosary, was the Mass...Emery enjoyed the Mass in a similar way that I enjoyed the rosary. The priest seemed more open than many preachers these days.  Speaking about "all" paths...I think the prior pope and current pope have a lot to do with that.   

I am grateful my sister moved the date of the Mass for our return.  I am glad we were there. It was a little odd; people coming up and shaking hands and offering to pray for us, but lovely too.  They don't know, nor do they need to know of the complicated nature of things in our family.  Or maybe they do know, because it is the same for them.

It is all just a shared moment.

It is all some sort of divine feminine.

It is all some sort of transition.

It is all some sort of loss.

It is all some sort of new beginning.   

Tuesday, July 29, 2025

Oooops, I did it again.

 At the gym yesterday, wrapping up my little bitty front squats, when I became aware of some things I have started saying to myself again.

 

The dreaded "for a...." has wormed it's way back into my training and into my brain.

Crap,  I thought I had put that behind me, but I realized today that it has crept back in.


This constant dismissing of myself, of any skills I have; by adding the phrase, 'for a'....to it.  The place it has really roared back is in throwing.  I think because of the lack of training this winter, along with the recent injury, and the worsening neck issues...I am dismissing myself before I can even start.

 I KNOW I am aging and I KNOW those changes are real.  I don't believe that "age is just a number" because things fucking change...and they are supposed to....but...the tone I am taking with my own little brain has become destructive and in some weird way, jealous too?

I have been caught up in focusing on outside validation or in comparison...oh...there is the issue. 

Am I right?

Yes, I am right.

When I had a moment at Fefor this month, I went up to Nick and thanked him for telling me that I was stronger than I really knew last year.  That his words had pushed me to, at the ripe old age of 57, pull a PR on a dead lift of 440. I looked him dead in the face and said, "not too bad for an old lady ."

Even though I was thanking him for what he said last year....Like totally tone deaf Mona... I am lost in some sort of self loathing sauce right now.

He looked me back, dead in the eye and said "No...that's a lot for ANYONE." 

As I walked away, all my stupid brain kept saying was, "That was nice of him to say....He didn't have to say that because it isn't really a lot, especially for all the people here."

 

SIGH

 

I am changing.  Aging is real.  And I don't need to cut myself off from any possible pleasure from working out or trying new things or staying strong.

Not sure what to do or feel at this point.  I should be looking to those women who are older than I who are still doing amazing things instead of always looking at the women who are younger than I; those who have decades of training behind them, thinking that I should be able to "keep up."  Dumb I know....but in my defense, we sure do live in a competitive culture. 

I guess I could use some help.  So if you hear me on the field or in the gym saying 'Yea, not bad for an old lady, not bad for a fat ass, not bad for a fat old lady" you have my permission to tell me to knock it off.  


Thursday, July 24, 2025

Travel Travel

 Well,  we are back from our trip.  Yeah Yeah....what has become a yearly trip.

 

Who AM I??

 

Fucking grateful that we get to do this, that I make this happen.

The trip out was LONG....the trip back seemed to work out well.  We got back to Albuquerque about 11PM. Went to sleep as soon as I could, and have been pushing the bed time stuff pretty quickly.  I really haven't had TOO much jet lag....notice how I said not too much....I did still have the zombie staring off into the distance at about 3PM, but it hasn't been too bad.

 

Every year I know I write about this, so there isn't much new to say. If I can go, I will go.

 

This year was hard though, I got hurt on the first day of throwing.  Then I thought I might be fine on the second day....and well...that was a mistake. 

 So....I slept.  I slept a lot.  I would just stop mid day and go up to the room and nap.  I felt really bad at first.  Why would I come all this way, why aren't I doing all of the things, why aren't I doing all of the things.

Well....I needed to nap I guess. 

Did yoga again this year....and the ladies that were doing a bit of yoga with me...we all realized just how worn out we have been.  And some how we all decided that would give one another the permission, the grace to do nothing.

That being said...there were some super cool workshops about nerves and feet and neuro plasticity. It was lovely to watch the women compete for the first time...Great to hang out and watch stone lifting and strongman.  

We traveled to Edinburgh this year too. That was a sweet little side trip too.

Funnily enough, I did start writing again while we were there.  I remember I did that last year too.  

So here I am, just trying to start using the blog again too.

 

This month, I will try to test out the hip. I have a crazy amount of games coming up in September and October. I decided to throw at worlds this year, but that decision is a blog for another day.